6 Emotional Stages of Homebuilding

6 Emotional Stages of Homebuilding

Home building is a very emotional experience. It’s so emotional it can bring couples closer together or cause rifts if communication isn’t where it needs to be. But even single homeowners might feel like they’re on an emotional rollercoaster over the course of a home build.

Feeling the full spectrum of emotions is totally normal. Each stage of the build process can bring on a new sentiment that wasn’t there before. Here’s a look at what you can expect and ways you can tame the emotional overload to keep a positive outlook.

Mixture of Excitement and Anxiety

When you make the decision to build a home, you’ll probably feel a mixture of excitement and anxiety. You’re about to embark on an amazing journey to create a home for you, by you.  The possibilities of what you can create generate a lot of excitement, but all of the unknowns and work ahead can cause anxiety to creep in as well. Choosing a builder can also be stressful since it sets the tone for the entire build.

Tame the anxiety by giving yourself ample time in the planning phase to make decisions and select a builder. You’ll feel more confident moving forward if you aren’t rushed. You can also use myHouseby to design your home from anywhere, compare numerous homes from multiple builders in one marketplace and view community information. Save your personalized designs to collaborate with family and friends that can provide feedback

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No matter how much time you take, there are going to be moments of indecisiveness – particularly when it comes time to sign the contract. The number of decisions that need to be made and the endless options can feel overwhelming. And sometimes a decision will need to be made promptly, which may cause you to question if you made the right call.

At the end of the day it’s all about trusting yourself and your build team. If you’re unsure about something ask your builder for advice. The last thing you want to do is make a decision without fully understanding how it impacts the budget, function and/or feel of your home. One factor for your home build budget is upgrades. When you tour a model home keep in mind that there could be a lot of upgrades inside and out you that fall in love with. Ask which features are upgrades so you can decide if it’s something worth including. myHouseby is another resource you can use to add upgrades to a home design and see the prices changes in real time.  


At some point it happens to everyone. Things don’t go exactly according to plan or go slower than expected, and feelings of frustration bubble to the surface.

Homebuilding is a complicated process that involves a lot of people, variables and unforeseen events. If the builder doesn’t set realistic expectations at the onset it can make the frustration worse. When aspects that are out of your control, like Mother Nature, get in the way of progress it’s also frustrating.

Home building takes an amazing amount of patience. Try to remember that no build goes perfectly. You’re bound to run into hang ups, but don’t let it get the best of you. Work with your builder to keep things on track best you can by responding promptly, asking questions and communicating openly.

Elation and Pride

On the day you move into your new home the feeling of elation is palpable. After months or even years of planning this day it’s finally arrived and the hard work is behind you. As you walk through the rooms that you helped design you’ll probably feel a sense of overwhelming pride that’s well deserved. You just accomplished something that few people ever will!  

There’s still a lot of work ahead – unpacking boxes, hanging window treatments, tending to the yard, etc. But you’ve got plenty of time to get settled in, so enjoy the moment when you move into your new home and all the memories that are to come.

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